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Downplaying Themselves, Upholding Men’s Status: Women’s Deference to Men in Wealthy Families

Annette Lareau
RSF: The Russell Sage Foundation Journal of the Social Sciences November 2022, 8 (7) 112-131; DOI: https://doi.org/10.7758/RSF.2022.8.7.06
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